We want to show our children respect. Respectful communication is the key to most relationships. One part of respectful communication is learning how to listen actively, and respond appropriately to what they are saying and to their body language. Another part of respectful communication involves using “I” messages to enable stating clearly what you think and how you feel.
Aug. 24, 2011
Setting Limits
Setting limits is a skill you will use more than any other, yet for most people it is the hardest to learn and practice consistently. When to set limits is discussed. The A-C-T method of setting limits is taught where the parents learn to acknowledge the feeling, control the behavior, and target an alternative.
Sep. 7, 2011
Encouraging Your Child And Yourself
When parents believe in children, they help children believe in themselves. When parents show their children respect, they help children respect themselves and others. Show that you believe in and respect your child. One of the best ways to do this is by being encouraging.
Sep. 21, 2011
Family Meetings
Regular family meetings are a key to raising a family of responsible, caring people. The importance of family meetings is given, as well as formats to follow in order to have the most effective results. Family meetings will encourage cooperation and reinforce family values, as well as provide an opportunity to have fun together!
Oct. 26, 2011
Goals of Misbehavior
There are four faulty ways children have of thinking that leads to their misbehavior. These are: the need for attention, for power, for revenge, and to display inadequacy. Learning to recognize these faulty ways of thinking will help a parent know how to respond to each kind of misbehavior.
Nov. 9, 2011
Taking Responsibility
As parents, we must learn who should take responsibility for the problems which arise with a particular child. By asking yourself four key questions you can easily decide who is responsible for the problem and what to do about it. Listening for feelings, “I” messages, and problem solving are among the tool s given.
Nov. 23, 2011
Decision-Making
We want our children to grow to be responsible adults. If we make decisions for them, they will not
learn how to make them for themselves. Learning who owns the problem and then what the steps to problem solving are will enable your child to talk together with you and others in the process.
Nov. 30, 2011
Responding to bullying between siblings
Parents can spend a considerable amount of time and energy trying to resolve insults stemming from sibling rivalry. This is not necessary. Two effective
“magic” responses to the problem are, “Do you believe it?” and “Are you hurt?”
Dec. 7, 2011
Discipline that makes sense
Effective discipline is an
overall approach, not just a specific act. The difference between punishment and discipline is discussed, as well as the key ways to discipline a child. Setting limits is included in effective
discipline.
Jan. 4, 2012
How to handle insulting stereotypes
It’s easy to upset people with insulting stereotypes about their race, religion, gender, or sexual orientation. Today, these insults are considered especially offensive. Using insulting stereotypes is a type of bullying which is talked about - why people use them, and what to do about it when they do.
Jan. 18, 2012
How to deal with physical attacks
How to help kids deal with physical attacks when they happen. The advice applies only to bullies who are basically emotionally stable. The procedure follows the basic “Bullies to Buddies” guidelines.
Jan. 25, 2012
How to deal with fighting between siblings
Brothers and sisters often fight. This fighting is so common that many parents believe it is normal. The parents expect brothers and sisters to fight. Children know what parents expect. Learn what to do in this program.
Feb. 1, 2012
How to deal with social exclusion
Social exclusion is a form of bullying. Though it can be subtle, it also can be devastating to the victims. It is considered a form of “relational aggression, and can be dealt with following the Bullies to Buddies model of bullying prevention.
